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Resolving Abandonment Experiences with Barack Obama

Congratulations President Obama on Winning the Nobel Peace Prize!

“Take the first step in faith. You do not
have to see the whole staircase.
Just take the first step.”
Martin Luther King, Jr.

 

 

A “corrective learning experience,” has been described in others writings by this author as events, experiences, or acts that allow us the opportunities and resources to correct or heal an abandonment experience. This includes our self-esteem, ability to bond, love, and trust; as well as our desires to destroy, harm, or kill others and ourselves.

To read how the election of Barack Obama would provide “corrective learning experiences” to individuals, groups and nations…click here!

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Thank You For Loving Me! The Psychology of Abandonment, Healing and Loving by: J. Ray Rice


 

Thank You for Loving Me! is dedicated:

“To those who love, and to those who want to be loved!”

James A. Cox, Editor-in-Chief of The Midwest Book Review wrote:

“Thank You for Loving Me! is about the practical psychology in a poetic format of loving and healing based on John Rice’s self-help, self-improvement seminar. It is about the necessity of taking risk, pursuing dreams; the role of friendship and the nature of love in the human experience; the impediments we all heir to; the concepts, values, and standards we all held to (by ourselves as well as by others); and the critical role of gratitude in peace of mind and personal tranquility. The psychology is sound, the style simple, the message elegant, the book timely and timeless.”

    • Chapter 1 –  I Just Discovered How Much I Love You
      • What are you risking?
      • I just want to be loved!
      • It all starts with our parents.
      • Time goes on, Life moves forward.
      • Mom!
      • Wherever I am.
    • Chapter 2 –  The Almighty Image
      • I need God in my life!
      • Lord, I haven’t been hearing You!
      • Thank You for loving me, Lord!
      • Some people think?    

Chapter 3 –  In My Image

    • I had a dream!
    • The truth is…
    • And…
    • How easy it is to spend your life looking!
    • Being your friend first.
    • When I was younger…
    • Sex is an action…
    • And…
    • Friends are those who…
    • Love & friendship
    • Love, what is it?
    • There is no such thing…
    • You’re involved with another…
    • Love is!
    • It is extremely difficult…
    • I’m sorry!
    • It has been said…
    • There is something…
    • Love! For the longest time…
    • I shared with a friend…
    • Do I prefer casual sex?
    • It is one of the greatest ironies of love…
    • I have learned…
    • Emotions and feelings…
    • Can you understand?
    • If you haven’t experience!
    • And…
    • Where does love begin?
    • There are two stages…
  • Chapter 4 –  Do I Chase You Away?
    • What do you want?
    • Whenever I see someone…
    • I met someone!
    • If I were honest?
    • I wonder?
    • Would I chase you away?
    • What should I do?
    • Before we can talk!
    • You say you’ve said that…
    • And…
    • I finally fell…
    • I’m sorry!
    • I’m sorry that I…
    • There are times when…
    • When I am silent…
    • Wow!
    • You know!
    • At times I feel…
    • If we would only be…
    • I don’t want to…
  • Chapter 5 –  Can I Be Held?
    • It was a moment…
    • When I say no.
    • Have you noticed?
    • If we discover…
    • I’m loved by…
    • I’m sorry I’m not capable…
  • Chapter 6 –  Thank You For Loving Me!
    • Thank you for…
    • I love you!
    • Thank you!
    • The key to peace is…
    • Thank you..It hasn’t been easy!
    • Thank you…for teaching…
    • Thank you…Because.
    • Thank you…I have experienced.
    • Thank you…You know.
    • Thank you for loving…
  • Epilogue

Abandonment Issues…The Answers To Human Behaviors


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As I prepared to presenter my seminar…It’s All About Abandonment, June 7th at the 2008 Conference of the National Association of Social Worker – Florida Chapter, I decided to share it with the world. It is that important to me! You will need Adobe to view this file. If you do not have Adobe Reader you can download it free by clicking on this link!

I ask that you respect my copyright to this presentation, as well as all of the articles I have posted. Please give me credit for the material and provide a link-back to this site so others can join our learning community.

My short and long-rang goals are to provide:

  • Train-the-Trainer programs for all occupations that work, service, and care for people;
  • Seminars for individuals and professionals that want to increase their interpersonal communication skills and attributes;
  • Develop an International Think-Tank to exchange ideas on possible solutions that may assist in the treatment and healing of abandonment issues, experiences, and events;
  • Continue to write reading and training materials on the many different subjects of abandonment.  

Please feel free to email me your interest in any of these goals to: jrayrice@itsallaboutabandonment.com


Click here to read…The Answers to Human Behaviors! Please add your comments to the discussion.

 

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Bloggers Unite for Human Rights – HIV/AIDS and Human Rights

The Origins of AIDS – May 15th is Bloggers Unite for Human Right! I have chosen HIV/AIDS. They both cause people to feel and experience abandonment. In fact it is causing children worldwide to be orphans. For information on human rights of people with HIV/AIDS worldwide, please click here.

1,000,000 Africans were used to test the oral vaccine for polio. Do not think you know the truth about the origins of AIDS?
Click to watch…AidsOrigins! (This Blogger, by providing a link on the worldwide web, is not claiming that any individual, company, or nation in this film is responsible for anything!)

Underlining Abandonment Issues in the Lack of Ethics

What are the ethical reasons to the following questions and behaviors?

 

 

 

 

  • Why do we kill?
  • Why do we produce guns of all types with new technology to kill people faster?
  • Why do we continue to produce nuclear weapons?
  • Why do we continue to produce chemical weapons?
  • Why do we continue to produce biological weapons?
  • Why do we lie?
  • Why do we cheat on our partner?
  • Why do we continue to have unprotected sex?
  • Why do we have sex with people and know nothing about them?
  • Why do we move-in with a person we are thinking about marrying and produce children with them without the protection of marriage?
  • Why do you set yourself up to fail in relationships?
  • Why do we steal?
  • Why do we use the name of God to hate, kill others, or win a game?

  • Why did we possibly risk 1 Million Africans in the development of the oral polio vaccine in the Congo? (Click underline text to view video)

  • Why does a leader of a nation lies about the true reason he and his administration sent men and women, sons and daughters, mothers and fathers to war and then cut their benefits and not providing them the aftercare and treatment for their physical and emotional wounds?
  • Why do we think it is Un-American to look at the cause and affects of our policies and actions?
  • Why do we fear our own children?
  • Why do we fear others?

 

 

 

Listen to the Underlining Abandonment Issues in the Lack of Ethics on Buzzing with John and read a new article on the same.

Also take 12-minutes to listen to Olberman: Bush Interview Unforgivable.

 

 

 

 

How the Media Abandoning the Truth is Affecting Us


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As a prelude to my next article and radio show…Underlining Abandonment Issues in the Lack of Ethics, I ask that you watch this video. It was aired on PBS last night, April 25th on the Bill Moyers Journal. The Reverend Jeramich Wright, Pastor of Trinity United Church of Christ in Chicago, Illinois was the guest. He was the pastor of Presidential Candidate Senator Obama.

Please view the whole video and give your comments on how the media abandoning the truth is affecting us!

Click to see the Bill Moyers Journal on the Reverend Jeramich Wright.

Let The Conflicts Die!

              
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Man only kills others and himself in wars. The conflicts live on to be fought another day and another. So why are we in such a rush to die? Unresolved abandonment issues? Are we learning something in this process? Killing each other and producing more guns and others weapons of mass destruction with laws allowing us to kill more is the problem. This is not the solution!

Remember these words and ask yourself if we have learned our lesson? History said, no!
Right now visitors to this blog are from over 185 countries and I know we all do not share the same belief systems, but everyone can relate to this point:

Jesus said, “Father forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.”
(Luke 23:34)

Over two-thousand years later and we still do not know what we are doing…Jesus did not die, he was murdered! To read…Let The Conflicts Die!

Do not forget to listen to the April 14th airing of Let The Conflicts Die on BlogTalkRadio!    

Why Some Black Males Have Abandoned Society for Prison


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“A society abandons its citizens,
And
Its’ citizens abandon its’ society.

 

What do you have?

 

A highly dangerous and dysfunctional society!”

7.3 Million Chidren Has A Parent in Prison in the U.S.

 

I hope that you have already read the article…Social Policies and Laws Cause Abandonment.
That writing and video outlines the concept that social polices and laws cause abandonment issues
and experiences to its citizens. The mental health of a nation is directly affected by that governments’ polices and procedures. The effects on the
war on drug and the war on crime are the same.

 

1.  You begin by increasing the world’s ability to kill every man, women, and child in
the production of weapons and their worldwide distribution

 

2.  You then reduce the cost of government by cutting services to the population of
your society that does not vote or have poor representation in government.

 

3.  You then reduce or close your inpatient psychiatric hospitals and discharge these
residents into the community and streets without the means to support
or maintain themselves.

 

4.  At the same time you cut the budgets to community programs that service your
citizens needing:

 

        a. drug treatment

 

        b. alcohol treatment

 

        c. mental health treatment

 

        d. poverty assistance

 

        e. child and youth services

 

        f. job training

 

5.  Now introduce a cheap drug into minority communities and give it prime time
coverage by every television station, at the same time.

 

6.  Help things alone by exposing every child to drugs in school by showing them all of the
different kinds of drugs and there effects.

 

7.  Limit or not provide treatment or rehabilitation in your prison system along with no
treatment for its prisoners’ drug, alcohol, or mental health issues during their
prison stay or after their release.

 

8.  Develop laws that directly affect the 51.8% recidivism rate of your treatment
population by increasing their prison sentencing after three arrests and convictions
to life in prison.

 

9.  Pass federal sentencing laws that provide for a longer prison sentencing for your
poorest and minority citizens that use the cheaper form of a same drug that your
upper-middle class and rich citizens use. Click here to help to change that!

10. Now build those much needed prison beds in white rural areas of the country that
provide them jobs, support industries, increase their tax base, increase their representatives in
government, with a population that cannot vote or be represented by a
government that sentences and maintains them.

 

11. Now privatize your prison system so it provides endless income to corporations
and its shareholders.

 

12. Now allow the private corporations to put to work their personal property
(prisoners) to earn more money for the corporations and its shareholders.

 

13. Do not place requirements on these private corporations’ recidivism rate to decrease
in order for them to be able to receive more personal property so that they can
earn money off the prisoners and pay them pennies on the dollars for their labor
in order to produce more revenue for the corporations and its shareholders.

 

 

 

The U.S. has more people in prison than any other nation in the world, including Communist China with a larger population (current) of 1,321,851,888 compared to U. S. population of 303,675,508! In 2005, it cost federal, state, and local government in the U.S., $62,000,000,000. In a report just issued by the Pew Center on the States, it states that these facts have not reduced the recidivism rate in our prison system, nor reduced overall crime.

 

 

  • White males 18 and older – 1 in 106 are in jail or prison
  • All men 20 to 34 – 1 in 54 are in jail or prison
  • Hispanic males 18 and older 1 in 36 are in jail or prison
  • Black males 18 and older – 1 in 15 are in jail or prison
  • Black males 20 to 34 year old – 1 in 9 are in jail or prison

 

To read Why Some Black Males Are Abandoning Society for Prison…click here

Thank You for Loving Me! The Psychology of Abandonment, Healing, and Loving by: J. Ray Rice

The third edition of Thank You for Loving Me! The Psychology of Abandonment, Healing, and Loving has been released for purchase online at CreateSpace and Amazon.com. This is one of three books by J. Ray Rice, M.S.W., A.C.S.W., that will be released in 2008.

Thank You for Loving Me! has been rewritten over 200 times since its first copyright in 1977. It started out as a personal growth journal the author kept during therapy. When he was a graduate student in training to become a therapist he realized that he could not take someone else to a point or level he had not reached himself. To achieve this end he began his personal growth journal that grew into a book that he has been written over 36 years.

Lessons in life have to be experienced and learned. You just cannot tell people what to do and how to do it. They have to learn! Thank You for Loving Me is a book that you will read and reread to understand the life lessons in it. The author took 36 years to write this book and friends that have read and reread the book before are still learning and seeing new lessons in the book.

The format of the book is written in proses. Prose is not poetry; prose is a matter-of-fact form of writing.

Remember the Chinese proverb, “Give a person a fish and feed them for the day, teach them how to fish and feed them for a lifetime.” Thank You for Loving Me teaches you how to love and heal so you can love and heal a lifetime!

 

Brief explanation of the book:

 

 

  • What is the manuscript about?
    • Thank You For Loving Me is about the human experience of loving and being loved. It assists the reader to understand how issues of abandonment have affected their self-esteem and the way they look at life events. It offers a tool on how to go about resolving ones’ hurts and losses.
  • Who should read it?
    • Anyone who loves and want to be love should read Thank You For Loving Me! It is written to adolescences and adults; male and female; straight and gay.

 

 

 

 

 

 

  • What will the reader learn from it?
    • How to learn to love and be loved by others and ourselves.
    • How to resolve our abandonment issues so we can feel completely safe and secure in who we are as individuals.
    • How and why we should respect all the people of the world.
  • Why it is important?
    • To increase our ability to love others and ourselves.
    • Resolving our abandonment issues increases our ability to resolve conflicts.
    • Resolving our abandonment issues enhances our ability to succeed in living within the global community.
    • Resolving our abandonment issues reduces wars and violence toward each other.
    • Unresolved abandonment issues affect our ability to live together as a family.
    • Unresolved abandonment issues affect our ability to commit and rear our children.
    • Unresolved abandonment issues affect our ability to bond and succeed in long-term relationships.
    • Unresolved abandonment issues affect our ability to be tolerant of people, cultures, and norms that are different from ours.

 

Anticipated market for the book

 

 

  • Who is the book marketed to and who should read this book?
    • Adolescences (13 years old and up) and all adults, male and female.
  • How big is the audience?
    • Worldwide
  • How many copies will be printed?
    • Print-on-demand allows any book order of one or more copies to be printed and shipped worldwide within a week of ordering.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Will the book be illustrated?

 

 

  • Yes!
  • The book has 36 beautiful and feeling illustrations drawn by William (“Bill”) Sawicki (03/19/1945 – 02/18/2001).

 
Author’s qualifications

 

 

  • What makes this author qualified to write this book?
    • The author is a trained social worker that has been treating abandonment issues all of his life.
    • He has traveled to 19-countries and examined these issues in their societies.
  • What are his credentials?
    • The author has a Master of Social Work degree.
    • He has treated thousands of teens, adults, and their families
  • How has he developed his experience in writing about this subject?
    • He has designed and administrated treatment programs with a specialty in resolving abandonment issues.
    • He developed the books during his own treatment experiences and enhanced it over the years in the treatment of others.
    • He has used his book in therapy with adolescences and adult for 30 years.
    • He has lectured and trained national and internationally on abandonment issues and the effects of unresolved abandonment issues on individuals, groups and societies.

 

Format of the manuscript

 

 

  • Thank You For Loving Me is written in proses.

 

Can I order a copy of the second edition, published in 1997 without the illustrations?

 

 

  • Yes, drop us an email.

 

Can I give a review on the 1st and 2nd editions of… Thank You For Loving Me?

 

 

  •  Yes! Just click on Add Comment.   

 

 

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