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What Is America’s Most Pressing Abandonment Issue as a Nation?

What is abandonment? Abandonment (Rice, 2008) is emotions, feelings, and acts that leave us with feelings or experience of: a) alienation, b) abuse, c) loss, d) betrayal, e) desertion, f) separation, g) segregation, h) incarceration, i) rejection, or j) the fear of our security. This author views abandonment and the issues, feeling, and the experiences they invoke, voluntarily or involuntarily, to be natural and unnatural events within the human experience. All forms of social policies, laws, communication and interactions, verbal or non-verbal, written or oral, and emotional or physical can cause people to feel or experience abandonment.

Events like wars, conflicts, murder-suicides, murder, suicide, death, rape, sexual or physical abuse, cheating, withdrawn of sex or emotions, change in power, loss of power, and social or economic policies produce abandonment feeling within people, groups, and nations. These experiences or issues left unresolved affect our ability to reason, bond, trust, love, communicate, problem-solve, rear our children, respect the rights of all and live with our neighbors in peace.

Now, I would like you to read the abandonment events in this survey and chose the one that you feel is most pressing for America. I also welcome learning what the abandonment issues are in other nations. Each nation and cultural has it own. All comments are welcome!

Rice, J. (2008). Thank you for loving me! The psychology of abandonment, healing, and loving. CA: CreateSpace

 

When Do You Need To Look At Abandoning Your Belief System?

“Hatred paralyzes life; love releases it.
Hatred confuses life; love harmonizes it.
Hatred darkens life; love illuminates it.”
Reverend Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

When do you need to look at abandoning your belief system? Here are my thoughts! Click here!

                    Coming Soon: The Link Between Terrorism and Unresolved Abandonment Issues!
By: J. Ray Rice, M.S.W., A.C.S.W.

Abandon Your Prejudices and Support Human Rights!

Everyone needs to be concerned about the social well-being of all. Support Human Right Day 24/7/365!

Turn-up the volume and listen the first time. The second time close your eyes, open your heart, and visualize respect and freedom for all.

Now read these words aloud!

We must begin to look at everyday events, behaviors, issues, and reactions as expressions of how well we are caring for people. You must understand that our thoughts and actions are causing the destruction of people and societies.

Look at how physical and emotional abuse damage people and cause them to act-out at loved ones and society. We must continue to facilitate corrective learning experiences in individuals and in society. We must stop destroying people, because they will just destroy us in return!

We must accept the differences in each other and build upon our strengths and common needs! You have the same rights as everyone else! If your rights are denied, my rights are not secured!

This is why we must resolve abandonment issues by providing corrective learning experiences that teach people how to love and accept themselves and others.

People! Let the people live and let the conflicts die! (Rice, pp. 236-237, 2008)

 

Let’s have a discussion about this topic. What prejudice(s) are you willing to overcome to secure the rights of others? This is the question Lt. Daniel Choi a West Point Alumni is asking President Obama and all Americans!
Rice, J.R. (2008). Thank you for loving me! The psychology of abandonment, healing, and love. CA: CreateSpace

Are We Abandoning Common Sense Over Guns?

Are we abandoning common sense over the right to bear arms? I did not want to believe my eyes and ears when I heard a man sporting a machine gun in the area of President Obama’s visit in Phoenix. The man made a disturbing statement that “he encouraged other gun owners to sport their weapons in public so the police can get use to it!” Now, why would we want to do that? Here is that video from CNN.

Here is another man in NH saying “he brought a gun to a meeting so he could be heard!” Chris Matthews asks a question everyone in this nation should be asking. “Just because you have a right to bear arms should you bring it to a Presidential Event? Remember the history of people who had guns around Presidents!”

We do not allow people to carry guns on an airline, so why should we allow people to carry arms to “Presidential Events?” What do we think? Are we abandoning common sense over our fear that our government will abandon or restrict our right to bear arms? I would not feel safe seeing someone walking down the street, walking into a mall, sitting next to me at a bar, walking into a classroom, using the restroom, watching a movie, having a gun in their gym bag or standing in a crowd sporting a machine gun or handgun. Please answer the following question and then continue to read my other post.

 

Why We Abandoned…’Do Not Tell’…in the Military!

We finally understand and accept that if your rights are denied…mine are not protected!

As a black man who grew-up during the civil rights movement in  America, I am keenly aware of the excuses given for not granting rights.

  • The bible says…
  • You are not white…
  • You are not equal..
  • You are 3/5 of a man….
  • You are not good enough…
  • It has always been that way…
  • You are not smart enough…
  • You are not responsible enough…
  • We do not want you marrying our daughters…
  • You came from an ape…
  • You are black…
  • You are needed to clean my house, raise my children, shine my shoes, and pick my crops…
  • You will drink or eat at the same sources…
  • You will want to vote and have blacks representing you in congress …
  • You are a boy…
  • I don’t want to have to respect you as another human being…
  • You have not earned it…
  • I don’t want you to have any rights, because it take away from mine…
  • Not now…wait!

Soldiers in any branch of service to their country have enough to worry about!

  • Being killed…
  • Being wounded…
  • Being capture…
  • Losing their ability to walk, speak, see, write, think, sleep, hold, eat, drink, hear, control their bodily functions, or have sex…
  • Providing for their family…
  • Loss of job and income…
  • Loss of their place in society…
  • Developing PTSD…
  • Experiencing the loss of fellow soldiers…
  • Being abandoned by their nation…
  • Becoming a prison of war…
  • Not receiving the care their need when they return…
  • Missing milestones in their children development…
  • Growing apart from their spouse, children, and friends…
  • Experiencing a change in their personality or outlook of life…

The last thing they need “is being discharged while being gay!

You are who you are!

Telling someone to not be themselves is stupid and it shows a lack of respect for our fellow human being! The following nations allow gays to serve openly in their army forces:

  • Australia
  • Austria
  • Belgium
  • Britain
  • Canada
  • Czech Republic
  • Denmark
  • Estonia
  • Finland
  • France
  • Germany
  • Ireland
  • Israel
  • Italy
  • Lithuania
  • Luxembourg
  • Netherlands
  • Norway
  • Slovenia
  • South Africa
  • Spain
  • Sweden
  • Switzerland
  • Uruguay
  • And now…The United State of America!

 

When you respect life… you respect all-life!

Not just the ones you prefer!

 


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Should the U.S. Supreme Court Rule to Abandon ‘Strip Searches’ in Schools?

This is another example of how social polices and laws can abandon its citizens, or cause its citizens to feel abandoned. I ask that you read this news article on ABCNews.com. It is titled “Justices hear arguments over school strip search.”

Then, I would like you to vote on whether the Supreme Court should rule in favor of allowing the practice of “strip search” in our schools or rule to abandon the practice. Your own argument is encouraged in your comments!

 

Why Some Black Males Are Abandoning Society for Prison will be the topic on “It’s A New Day” WJZD 94.5 FM


FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

Contact:
John Ray Rice, A.C.S.W.
jrayrice@itsallaboutabandonment.com

J. Ray Rice will discuss his article “Why Some Black Males Are Abandoning Society for Prison” on “IT’S A NEW DAY” with Radio Host RIP DANIELS, on WJZD 94.5 FM in Gulfport, MS – Tuesday, April 28, 2009 – 9AM to 11AM C.S.T.

Ft. Lauderdale, FL – April 25, 2009 – J. Ray Rice, is a speaker, trainer, and author of 2 books selling on Amazon.com Thank You for Loving Me! The Psychology of Abandonment, Healing, and Loving and its’ personal growth journal, What I Must Give Myself…First! Rice will be the guest on “It’s A New Day” with host Rip Daniels on WJZD 94.5 FM out of Gulfport, MS, April 28, 2009 9AM to 11AM C.S.T. The show will be broadcast in Louisiana, Alabama, Florida, and over the Internet at http://www.itisanewday.com. Listeners in the U.S., can join the conversation by calling toll free 1-866-945-9455. Rice chose to write this topic because 1 out of 9 black males between the ages of 20 – 34 is in prison. Rice will discuss how culture, behavior, social policies, and drugs laws have all contributed to black males abandoning themselves and society. This topics is one of over 40 articles and surveys on this blog with readers from 140 different nations.

Rice wants you to understand the next time you see or hear of destructive behaviors or actions, be they, physical, emotional, social, or philosophical that “it is all about abandonment.” Often after school shootings, mass murders, murder-suicide, and wars we are left questing what would cause someone to commit these actions or place himself or herself in jeopardy of going to prison. Rice’s theory is that they all share a common denominator…unresolved abandonment issues! For him, all forms of communications and interactions produce abandonment feelings and events. For some their earlier abandonment issues have severely damaged their self-esteem, feelings of self-worth, and reasoning abilities. Over a person’s lifetime, left unresolved, these experiences could result in the kind of behaviors and actions we see in the news. Rice writes, “history is repeating itself because we are not learning and resolving the issues that created the problem in the first place.” When a society abandons its citizens, their citizens abandons society. Neither is safe.

Rice, a member of the Academy of Certified Social Workers of the National Association of Social Workers since 1979, has been studying the effects of unresolved abandonment issues for over 30 years and has traveled in 19-countries studying their culture and delivery of social services. His books are written to teach us how to heal abandonment issues, and his blog shows us how abandonment experiences and actions (real or perceived) can produce unresolved abandonment issues within any individual or society, impairing their function and justifying in some, the killing of strangers and love-ones alike.

J. Ray Rice is a unique trainer and speaker, nationally and internationally.

For more information contact: J. Ray Rice

Read parts 1 and 2 of “Why Some Black Men Are Abandoning Society for Prison.

Nebraska Allows Parents to Abandon Children Up To 19 Years Old

A new “safe-haven” law in Nebraska permits parents to abandon their children and teens at a hospital. No questions asked! Click here to read this news article. After you have had a chance to read it, please vote and comment about this law and how you feel it will affect the child, the family, the courts, and the social service network that provides for these individuals.

To read the latest update on the changes that are being made to this law because of its outcome please read…Nebraska fears rush to drop off kids before haven law changes on CNN.

 

 

If you have not had a chance to read another article I wrote about a Nebraska youth, please read…How Unresolved Abandonment Issues Affected Robert Hawkins!