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What Is America’s Most Pressing Abandonment Issue as a Nation?

What is abandonment? Abandonment (Rice, 2008) is emotions, feelings, and acts that leave us with feelings or experience of: a) alienation, b) abuse, c) loss, d) betrayal, e) desertion, f) separation, g) segregation, h) incarceration, i) rejection, or j) the fear of our security. This author views abandonment and the issues, feeling, and the experiences they invoke, voluntarily or involuntarily, to be natural and unnatural events within the human experience. All forms of social policies, laws, communication and interactions, verbal or non-verbal, written or oral, and emotional or physical can cause people to feel or experience abandonment.

Events like wars, conflicts, murder-suicides, murder, suicide, death, rape, sexual or physical abuse, cheating, withdrawn of sex or emotions, change in power, loss of power, and social or economic policies produce abandonment feeling within people, groups, and nations. These experiences or issues left unresolved affect our ability to reason, bond, trust, love, communicate, problem-solve, rear our children, respect the rights of all and live with our neighbors in peace.

Now, I would like you to read the abandonment events in this survey and chose the one that you feel is most pressing for America. I also welcome learning what the abandonment issues are in other nations. Each nation and cultural has it own. All comments are welcome!

Rice, J. (2008). Thank you for loving me! The psychology of abandonment, healing, and loving. CA: CreateSpace

 

Hello World!

Welcome to my improved blog on “Understanding Abandonment Issues and The Psychology of Human Behaviors.” I became professional aware of  unresolved abandonment issues at the age of 18, directly out of high school. I was chosen to be part of a team of 13 Americans who joined 13 Columbians to set-up and run the first YMCA Camp in of Bogota, Columbia in 1967. In our last camp session, that summer, all of the youths were from an orphanage. I exchanged one of the mine youth with another one from another American Counselor because he was so needing. The youth, who looked like he was 11 was actually 15 years old. He looked at me and said, “you are going to hurt me!” I ensured him that I wasn’t going to hurt him. For the next week I gave him all of my love and attention. It wasn’t until the last day of the camp session that I heard what he had told me.

He was getting ready to get on his bus back to the orphanage. I was getting ready to board my bus to the airport to visit two more countries in South America  before flying back to American to start college that fall.  It was not until the youth walked up to me with tears in his eyes and said to me again, “I told you that you were going to hurt me,” that I heard him. All I could do was to hug him and tell him that I was sorry and cry!

I didn’t know the impact of my actions, as good as they were! I didn’t understand how to show him the good that had come out of this experience. I didn’t know how to terminate a relationship so the person didn’t feel worse off for meeting me. For all of these reasons I changed my major at George Williams College (Founder of the YMCA) from becoming a YMCA Administrator to studying Group Work and become a Clinical Social Worker and College Instructor.

I began writing on the subject in graduate school and in 1977published my first book on the subject, Thank You for Loving Me! The Psychology of Loving and Healing  in 1984.  In 2008 the Revised publication of Thank You for Loving Me! The Psychology of Loving and Healing was released, alone with a Personal Growth Journal titled, What I Must Give Myself…First! Someone Else Cannot Give Me What I Am Not Able or Willing to Give Myself.

These two books are Self-Help books that can enhance one’s treatment in therapy. They don’t read like a normal book, but assist in facilitating a “corrective learning experience!”  I spent 20 years writing and rewriting Thank You for Loving Me! It started out as my diary doing my years in therapy and then I developed it for the use in the treatment of adolescents and adults in individual and group therapy.

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Are We Abandoning Common Sense Over Guns?

Are we abandoning common sense over the right to bear arms? I did not want to believe my eyes and ears when I heard a man sporting a machine gun in the area of President Obama’s visit in Phoenix. The man made a disturbing statement that “he encouraged other gun owners to sport their weapons in public so the police can get use to it!” Now, why would we want to do that? Here is that video from CNN.

Here is another man in NH saying “he brought a gun to a meeting so he could be heard!” Chris Matthews asks a question everyone in this nation should be asking. “Just because you have a right to bear arms should you bring it to a Presidential Event? Remember the history of people who had guns around Presidents!”

We do not allow people to carry guns on an airline, so why should we allow people to carry arms to “Presidential Events?” What do we think? Are we abandoning common sense over our fear that our government will abandon or restrict our right to bear arms? I would not feel safe seeing someone walking down the street, walking into a mall, sitting next to me at a bar, walking into a classroom, using the restroom, watching a movie, having a gun in their gym bag or standing in a crowd sporting a machine gun or handgun. Please answer the following question and then continue to read my other post.

 

Should Americans Abandon Their Rights to Bear Arms?

Since March 10, 2009 44 have been killed in the United States in mass murders. A total of 200 have been killed in American in 50 mass murders since Virginia Tech in April 16, 2007. (ABCNews, April 4, 2009)

Please vote on the question below. Your comments are welcome!

 

 



The Common Denominators of Unresolved Abandonment Issues and Guns in Mass Murders

I have been writing and giving examples of how communications and interactions between individuals, groups, and societies can cause abandonment issues. Left unresolved these issues can damage our self-esteem, impart our problem-solving abilities, and contribute to some too act violent toward others and themselves. Sometimes, these events affect us so severely and often that they can be the driving force behind some of the most serve acts of violence and taking of innocent lives.

The following are some of the high profile murders that have been in the news from April 5, 2007 and dating back to Christmas of 2008. I believe that all of these individuals has unresolved abandonment issues that are at the root of their actions, along with the asset to guns!

I would like for you to read and listen to the information provided in the following links that reveal their unresolved abandonment issues. Afterward please give your comments and understanding about these issues and actions.

April 5, 2009
“Police: Dad Killed Kids Because Wife Was Leaving” (Phuonge Le, AP, ABCNews)

James Harrison’s unresolved abandonment issues were: a) his wife betrayed him in an affair, and b) she was going to leave him for another man.

April 4, 2009
“Gunman ‘Lying in Wait’ Kills 3 Pittsburgh Officers” (Plushnick-Masti and Dan Nephin, AP, ABCNews)

Richard Poplawski’s possible unresolved abandonment issues were: a) loss of job, b) fear of loss of his right to bear-arms, and c) possible eviction by his mother for his dog urinating in her home.

April 3, 2009
“As NY Gunman’s Life Unraveled, He Took Others’ (Rubinkam, AP, ABCNews)

Jiverly Wong’s possible unresolved abandonment issues were: a) loss of job, b) his failure to speak English well, c) his lack of acceptance, and d) in his eyes the Center’s failure to teach him English and provide the America Dream.

March 13, 2009
“Doubts Arise Over Threat by German Teenage Gunman” (Leske, ABCNews)

Tim Kretschmer’s possible unresolved abandonment issues were: a) feelings of abandonment/rejection by classmates and school, and b) feelings of depression due to him lacking to successfully bond with family and friends.

March 16, 2009
“Slain Ala. Mother Mourned as Unique, Independent” (Hunter, AP, ABCNews)

Michael McLendon’s possible unresolved abandonment issues were: a) his failure to become a law-enforcement officer, and b) his family failure to contribute to his success in his eyes.

March 22, 2009
“Oakland Seeking Answers in Police Killings” (Jesse McKinley, NYTimes)

Lovelle Mixon’s possible unresolved abandonment issues were: a) his fear of returning to prison on a warrant, and b) despondent over not being able to find employment.


February 24, 2009
“Boy Shoots Father’s Pregnant Girlfriend” (ABCNews)

Jordan Brown’s possible unresolved abandonment issues were: a) his fear of the loss of love from his father, b) failure to be prepared for a blended-family, c) failure to bond with father’s girlfriend, two daughter, and new baby, and d) giving him a gun when he does not have the maturity to resolve conflicts or talk about his feelings.

December 25, 2008
“Police: Burns from fire altered ‘killer Santa’ plan” (CNN)

Bruce Jeffrey Pardo’s possible unresolved abandonment issues were: a) his divorced from his wife, b) his feelings of abandonment from his family and his wife’s family, and c) his mother siding with his wife during the divorce.

It’s All About Abandonment! Do not forgive to vote on the issue of guns!

Underlining Abandonment Issues in the Lack of Ethics

What are the ethical reasons to the following questions and behaviors?

 

 

 

 

  • Why do we kill?
  • Why do we produce guns of all types with new technology to kill people faster?
  • Why do we continue to produce nuclear weapons?
  • Why do we continue to produce chemical weapons?
  • Why do we continue to produce biological weapons?
  • Why do we lie?
  • Why do we cheat on our partner?
  • Why do we continue to have unprotected sex?
  • Why do we have sex with people and know nothing about them?
  • Why do we move-in with a person we are thinking about marrying and produce children with them without the protection of marriage?
  • Why do you set yourself up to fail in relationships?
  • Why do we steal?
  • Why do we use the name of God to hate, kill others, or win a game?

  • Why did we possibly risk 1 Million Africans in the development of the oral polio vaccine in the Congo? (Click underline text to view video)

  • Why does a leader of a nation lies about the true reason he and his administration sent men and women, sons and daughters, mothers and fathers to war and then cut their benefits and not providing them the aftercare and treatment for their physical and emotional wounds?
  • Why do we think it is Un-American to look at the cause and affects of our policies and actions?
  • Why do we fear our own children?
  • Why do we fear others?

 

 

 

Listen to the Underlining Abandonment Issues in the Lack of Ethics on Buzzing with John and read a new article on the same.

Also take 12-minutes to listen to Olberman: Bush Interview Unforgivable.

 

 

 

 

Why Some Black Males Have Abandoned Society for Prison


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“A society abandons its citizens,
And
Its’ citizens abandon its’ society.

 

What do you have?

 

A highly dangerous and dysfunctional society!”

7.3 Million Chidren Has A Parent in Prison in the U.S.

 

I hope that you have already read the article…Social Policies and Laws Cause Abandonment.
That writing and video outlines the concept that social polices and laws cause abandonment issues
and experiences to its citizens. The mental health of a nation is directly affected by that governments’ polices and procedures. The effects on the
war on drug and the war on crime are the same.

 

1.  You begin by increasing the world’s ability to kill every man, women, and child in
the production of weapons and their worldwide distribution

 

2.  You then reduce the cost of government by cutting services to the population of
your society that does not vote or have poor representation in government.

 

3.  You then reduce or close your inpatient psychiatric hospitals and discharge these
residents into the community and streets without the means to support
or maintain themselves.

 

4.  At the same time you cut the budgets to community programs that service your
citizens needing:

 

        a. drug treatment

 

        b. alcohol treatment

 

        c. mental health treatment

 

        d. poverty assistance

 

        e. child and youth services

 

        f. job training

 

5.  Now introduce a cheap drug into minority communities and give it prime time
coverage by every television station, at the same time.

 

6.  Help things alone by exposing every child to drugs in school by showing them all of the
different kinds of drugs and there effects.

 

7.  Limit or not provide treatment or rehabilitation in your prison system along with no
treatment for its prisoners’ drug, alcohol, or mental health issues during their
prison stay or after their release.

 

8.  Develop laws that directly affect the 51.8% recidivism rate of your treatment
population by increasing their prison sentencing after three arrests and convictions
to life in prison.

 

9.  Pass federal sentencing laws that provide for a longer prison sentencing for your
poorest and minority citizens that use the cheaper form of a same drug that your
upper-middle class and rich citizens use. Click here to help to change that!

10. Now build those much needed prison beds in white rural areas of the country that
provide them jobs, support industries, increase their tax base, increase their representatives in
government, with a population that cannot vote or be represented by a
government that sentences and maintains them.

 

11. Now privatize your prison system so it provides endless income to corporations
and its shareholders.

 

12. Now allow the private corporations to put to work their personal property
(prisoners) to earn more money for the corporations and its shareholders.

 

13. Do not place requirements on these private corporations’ recidivism rate to decrease
in order for them to be able to receive more personal property so that they can
earn money off the prisoners and pay them pennies on the dollars for their labor
in order to produce more revenue for the corporations and its shareholders.

 

 

 

The U.S. has more people in prison than any other nation in the world, including Communist China with a larger population (current) of 1,321,851,888 compared to U. S. population of 303,675,508! In 2005, it cost federal, state, and local government in the U.S., $62,000,000,000. In a report just issued by the Pew Center on the States, it states that these facts have not reduced the recidivism rate in our prison system, nor reduced overall crime.

 

 

  • White males 18 and older – 1 in 106 are in jail or prison
  • All men 20 to 34 – 1 in 54 are in jail or prison
  • Hispanic males 18 and older 1 in 36 are in jail or prison
  • Black males 18 and older – 1 in 15 are in jail or prison
  • Black males 20 to 34 year old – 1 in 9 are in jail or prison

 

To read Why Some Black Males Are Abandoning Society for Prison…click here