Adult Males Must Abandon Fathering Teenagers’ Babies

    “The problem with teens sex is not simply that teens are having sex.”
(U.S. News & World Report, Sins of the Father, 8/6/95)

In the U.S., would you be surprised to learn that teenage boys are not the fathers of the majority of babies born to teenage girls? According to an article written by Steinhauer, (NY Times, 1995), “federal and state surveys suggest that adult males are the fathers of some two-thirds of the babies born to teenage girls!”

Wisconsin provides a clear example. An Executive Summary if truth be told… prepared for the United Way of Milwaukee states, “71% of babies born to teen girls are fathered by adult males over 20-years old.” In addition, if that is not disturbing enough, they found that “42% of the girls younger than 15 reported that their first intercourse was nonconsensual.” In nonprofessional term, adult men raped them! In the NY Times article (1995) “in Chicago 61% of young mothers had been raped.” “In Seattle, another study reported that 68% had been raped.”

The American Bar Association Center on Children and the Law in 1997 conducted an exploratory research into “the responses of the courts and social service agencies to adult males having relationships with teenage girls.” You can read their findings in, Sexual Relationships between Adult Males and Young Teen Girls: Exploring the Legal and Social Responses. They also found, that adult men, not teenage boys, are often responsible for impregnating most young girls.” They identified the problem, but also discussed how the courts, social service agencies, the media, and the communities need to address this epidemic.

 

In Sins of the Fathers (Shapiro & Wright, 1995), they wrote in U.S. News & World Report, “In 1920, for example, 93% of babies born to teenagers were fathered by adults.” Today we should be appalled at the fact that we as a society are looking the other way at an epidemic that is causing far more physically, emotional, psychological, and financial hardship to our children, than the Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints in TX. How are we as parents of children, brothers and sister of girls and as a society not demanding a stop to our girls being raped and abused?

This ‘statutory rape‘ of our children is causing them and their children to have unresolved abandoned issues. Just read the comments at the end of the ABA reports, here is one:

The reason my mother doesn’t like me to date older men is because my dad was 20 years older than her. And he already had three kids, my third older brothers. She says an older man wants you to cook for them, clean, do a lot of things, but they don’t treat you right sometimes. And she’s afraid that might happen to me. And it did happen…

                                                                         (Elstein & Noy, 1997, p. 30)  

‘Statutory rape’ is causing society unresolved abandonment issues by the adult males who are abandoning their children and the responsible of supporting them, rearing them, and loving them. They deserve the same love, caring, and support all of us do!

Milwaukee is following the recommendations in the ABA report. I ask that the U.S. Surgeon General declare as an epidemic ‘adult males who are committing “statutory rape” or fathering the babies born to teenage girls as a public health crisis. I ask that they work to implement all of the recommendations in the ABA’s report in all 50 states to stop the rape and abuse of our children and their children!

What do you think? Is this a worldwide epidemic? Would you like for the courts and social agencies to do if your child was a victim of ‘statutory rape?’

References

Elstein, Sharon G., & Davis, Noy. (1997). Sexual relationships between adult males and young teen girls: Exploring the legal and social responses. American Bar  Association Center on Children and the Law. Retrieved from www.abanet.org/child/statutory-rape.pdf

Shapiro, Joseph P., & Wright, Andrea R. (1995). Sins of the fathers. U.S. News & World  Report. Retrieved from www.usnews.com/usnews/culture/articles/950814    /archive_032639.htm

Steinhauer, Jennifer. (1995). Study cites adult males for most teen-age births. The New York Times. Retrieved from www.nytimes.com/1995/08/02/us/study-cites-adult-males-for-most-teen-age-births.html?pagewanted=print

United Way of Milwaukee. (2006). If truth be told. United Way of Milwaukee, WI. Retrieved from http://www.unitedwaymilwaukee.org/PDFs/uwgm_TPRexecsumm.pdf

 

 

10 thoughts on “Adult Males Must Abandon Fathering Teenagers’ Babies”

  1. Excellent read, I just passed this onto a colleague who was doing a little research on this topic.

  2. I beg Sorry for my english. But he could not express his opinion. You have very interesting site.

  3. To your first comment…thank you! To your second that depends on what each of us will do to address the behaviors and problems!

  4. From Thank You for Loving Me! The Psychology of Abandonment, Healing, and Loving.

    I am sorry for the pain that I see in your eyes and feel in your heart.
    I ask that you forgive me, but I understand why you cannot.
    At least not now!

    You are a very lovable person and you will find the right man and the right man will find you.
    If is not our fault when people that we love are not capable of loving us in return.
    The normal reaction is to take it personally, but do not!

    I hardest task I have found is to love myself first.

    Thank you for loving me!

    John

  5. Hi John,

    I thought I had misread the title of your article. I am of the firm opinion that adult males who father teenage babies must do only one thing, they MUST be prosecuted!

    And increasingly, I am beginning to feel that there must be repercussions for the teenage female, as well.

    Also, forgive me while I step upon my soapbox…but the parents of this teenage little girl must assume some responsibility too.

    You have aptly named the problem…abandonment. As a young girl, I was exposed to sex at an early age and As I have looked back over my life, I realize that I had abandonment issues . Because my father was not there emotionally (he was there physically) I was seeking acceptance and appreciation from every man I met.

    I never got it. I just got used time and time again and pretty much thrown away.

    My mother couldn’t help me because she had suffered her entire life with the same issues – but she was uneducated and unable to pinpoint the problem.

    It is truly sad that over the last 20 years as I have been coming to terms with abandonment by my father, I look around and find that there is no husband because so many black men have been brainwashed to believe that women of other races are more desirable than I am.

    What irony, huh?

    Okkkkkkkkkkk, so here I go on another journey that will take me to my grave, while dealing with this new abandonment.

    This has to be the absolute worse time in history to be a black woman. Even slavery would be preferable to living through this time when there are just no black men around to date, love and marry.

  6. It is no surprise to me. There are so many teens that have had “relationships” with older men and have resulted in children that it seems to be the norm. In Arizona, many of these men are here illegally and return to their home countries and their families leaving the citizens to support these children.

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