Why Some Black Males Have Abandoned Society for Prison


“A society abandons its citizens,
Its’ citizens abandon its’ society.


What do you have?


A highly dangerous and dysfunctional society!”

7.3 Million Chidren Has A Parent in Prison in the U.S.


I hope that you have already read the article…Social Policies and Laws Cause Abandonment.
That writing and video outlines the concept that social polices and laws cause abandonment issues
and experiences to its citizens. The mental health of a nation is directly affected by that governments’ polices and procedures. The effects on the
war on drug and the war on crime are the same.


1.  You begin by increasing the world’s ability to kill every man, women, and child in
the production of weapons and their worldwide distribution


2.  You then reduce the cost of government by cutting services to the population of
your society that does not vote or have poor representation in government.


3.  You then reduce or close your inpatient psychiatric hospitals and discharge these
residents into the community and streets without the means to support
or maintain themselves.


4.  At the same time you cut the budgets to community programs that service your
citizens needing:


        a. drug treatment


        b. alcohol treatment


        c. mental health treatment


        d. poverty assistance


        e. child and youth services


        f. job training


5.  Now introduce a cheap drug into minority communities and give it prime time
coverage by every television station, at the same time.


6.  Help things alone by exposing every child to drugs in school by showing them all of the
different kinds of drugs and there effects.


7.  Limit or not provide treatment or rehabilitation in your prison system along with no
treatment for its prisoners’ drug, alcohol, or mental health issues during their
prison stay or after their release.


8.  Develop laws that directly affect the 51.8% recidivism rate of your treatment
population by increasing their prison sentencing after three arrests and convictions
to life in prison.


9.  Pass federal sentencing laws that provide for a longer prison sentencing for your
poorest and minority citizens that use the cheaper form of a same drug that your
upper-middle class and rich citizens use. Click here to help to change that!

10. Now build those much needed prison beds in white rural areas of the country that
provide them jobs, support industries, increase their tax base, increase their representatives in
government, with a population that cannot vote or be represented by a
government that sentences and maintains them.


11. Now privatize your prison system so it provides endless income to corporations
and its shareholders.


12. Now allow the private corporations to put to work their personal property
(prisoners) to earn more money for the corporations and its shareholders.


13. Do not place requirements on these private corporations’ recidivism rate to decrease
in order for them to be able to receive more personal property so that they can
earn money off the prisoners and pay them pennies on the dollars for their labor
in order to produce more revenue for the corporations and its shareholders.




The U.S. has more people in prison than any other nation in the world, including Communist China with a larger population (current) of 1,321,851,888 compared to U. S. population of 303,675,508! In 2005, it cost federal, state, and local government in the U.S., $62,000,000,000. In a report just issued by the Pew Center on the States, it states that these facts have not reduced the recidivism rate in our prison system, nor reduced overall crime.



  • White males 18 and older – 1 in 106 are in jail or prison
  • All men 20 to 34 – 1 in 54 are in jail or prison
  • Hispanic males 18 and older 1 in 36 are in jail or prison
  • Black males 18 and older – 1 in 15 are in jail or prison
  • Black males 20 to 34 year old – 1 in 9 are in jail or prison


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  1. Why Some Black Males Are Abandoning Society for Prison will be the topic on “It’s A New Day” WJZD 94.5 FM

    FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASEContact:John Ray Rice, A.C.S.W.jrayrice@itsallaboutabandonment.comJ. Ray Rice will discuss his article “Why Some Black Males Are Abandoning Society for Prison” on “IT’S A NEW DAY” with Radio Host RIP DANIELS, on WJZD 94.5 FM in Gulfport, MS – Tuesday, April 28, 2009 – 9AM to 11AM C.S.T. Ft. Lauderdale, FL – April 25, 2009 – J. Ray Rice, is a speaker, trainer, and author of 2 books selling on Amazon.com Thank You for Loving Me! The Psychology of Abandonment, Healing, and Loving and its’ personal growth journal, What I Must Give Myself…First! Rice will be the guest on “It’s …

  2. Thank you for reading and commenting about this important issue.

    Please continue to read and comment on the other articles as well.

    Thanks again!

  3. The topic of Black men in prison is such a double edged sword w/me. I was a crime editor for many yrs. took it on to prove one thing, that I could write report crime on a daily and never report black on black crime or crime committed by Blacks ever.

    Guess what, I proved it year after year. Last yr. I wanted to prove there were more White males locked up in Ohio Prisons the state where I live. Took a fews week by simply going to Ohio Prison Web Site, more whites locked up in prison.

    Black folks got mad at me for this, just as Whites get mad when I say I never ran out of violent white on white crime to report on a daily.

    Racism does if you let it eat at your core. Ask the slaves or our older generations, yet they found a way. I strongly suggest that Brothers find a better way.

    And one thing all African Americans need to reread is the Making of a Slave by Willie Lynch cause he is still ruling from his grave, which I spit (on!)

    You have a wonderful blog!!!

    Your friend from blog catalog.

  4. I am glad that you came back. Your reaction is normal and expected. I reacted the same way when I was given the exercise to do and told that I needed to learn to love myself. This is why my second book, due out the year, is titled…What I Must Give Myself First!
    Give yourself and accept the credit (praise) everyone is trying to get you to accept. All you have to do when you receive praise is to say, thank you!

    It is not an easy task. I have been in therapy four times and would return anytime if I felt it would assist me in my life. I have spend 36/years writing…Thank You for Loving Me!

    Thank you and don’t give up the fight!

    Someone else cannot give you what you will not or choose not to give yourself.

  5. I appreciate your response. I just don’t think I am worthy of any praise quite yet. Throwing together a bunch of random ideas into a blog is not setting much of a standard for the craft.

    You didn’t anger me. I was expressing (likely foolishly to you) my part. case. Sure, everyone has had their crosses to bear. Yours seems pretty tough and I wouldn’t have known what to do with my family members doing (or not doing) the things they did.

    Plenty of other terrible things running wrong in the world: Darfur, Myanmar, Bosnia, Zimbabwe, Egypt and tons of other places.

    I lost my integrity and respect. It doesn’t come back. People will never take me seriously or at my word about anything. And I wasn’t some low life – just a man who got “fooled” into actually believing in a woman. (And the story is much more complex than that…)

    I am glad you help others. You do some good in a world of no good people – and they do exist. Some use their power positions wrongly and that is what upsets me, that, for all their degrees, papers and analysis, they don’t believe anyone is worth saving…

    Keep up your work!

  6. First, please accept my apology for anything I said that upset you Jason.

    To not be a victim I have learned that we have to accept the cards life has dealt us and that is not easy. I have not met anyone that life has been fair with. Each of us has our cross to bear.

    I became a social work because I wanted to treat the pathology I was seeing in my family. So far, and I pray that I will not lose more, 5 cousins have died from drug abuse or actions of others on drugs. I have another one in prison for life. I grow-up in the ghetto on the west side of Chicago.  I knew gangs as a youth, worked with them on the streets, and again in the correction system. I know that you have every reason to be angry for what you have experience.

    You know that you are not going to be able to push me away and this is my test. I accept it. I chosen to become a social work because if somebody was not there when I need it, I would be die or in prison. Teachers and mentors in my life have given me so much by believing in me and not allow my behaviors and actions to push me away. I have learned to do the same.

    I am not like the others. The most important thing to be on earth is another human being. I don’t apology for seeing the good in you and encouraging you to hang in there as you pull your life together. I and all of the other individuals that are telling you have a gift in writing do not want to hear about you returning to jail. You matter to me, but more importantly you must matter to yourself!

    Life is hard and life isn’t fair!

    Are you really angry or is it difficult to accept praise from others and yourself?

    Let me know?


  7. I had to take a pause before I could begin to answer your last response.

    First, I am not broken or a robot. I do not need to “reprogram” myself. I’m not a computer that needs rebooting.

    My abandonment issues I have settled. They were many-tiered and I know it wasn’t my fault. Simple put:
    1) My father and mother never should have married. They met in the military, had a odd relationship and she got pregnant. My dad wasn’t father material as his 4 marriages and abusive behavior toward all led to his incarceration when I was 16. He has never said he was sorry and never will be apart of my life. He’s dead to me.
    2) My mother’s family were not happy to deal we me, or rather, her sister wasn’t due to her psych. problems after we moved. As a result, I was teased, mocked and questioned by my aunt. My mother just gets in the middle of it – appeasing her while knowing she’s never going to change. I moved away for a decade, only to have to come back. 4 years later, I almost wished I had stuck it out back where it all started.
    3) People have only a use for me if I have success or money. Somehow, it doesn’t matter if I share or communicate with a person for whatever reason. We are selfish; human beings are seeking out maximum pleasure from minimal pain. Unless I have something for them, most are not that interested in me.

    Self-esteem. That’s another psych profession buzz word thrown around alot. In my sentencing, my lawyer quered me in front of the judge about that. They got the answer they wanted after 9 months in one of the 5 worst inner city jails in the U.S. I condemn that remark.

    I write this from a library and can gather information fine. Practice at the craft and access to technology is the limiting factor, not info on IE as it related to a career. I was only 4 1/2 years removed from college when this happened. I am longer removed from my last position than my experience level was. That’s another barrier. Frankly, it is no longer an option worth pursuing.

    I forgive myself for “what I did” just fine. But I won’t forgive liars (the victim) and people in charge that manipulated the courts to a get their end. I’m not talking little white lies either. I’m talking perjury and deceit beyond the pale. But you would not be interested, since we must all be broken, abandoned and deservant of the life we got – come around go around crap.

    I’ve done the self-help tour. I look for it but nothing resonates. I am too cynical, too jaded and watch the world spin up spin to carry the day.

    Don’t take this response as a negative to you. (And you won’t.) You just have your faith and I have mine. You use your methods to get a ball rolling, and I have mine.

    Maybe for a few days I needed to remind myself of this crap as nears the 7th anniversary of my personal 911. But I am not allowed that victimhood – the PTSD world that others get to revel in for their own uses.

    I appreciate the advise. I won’t come back. Just a HOUND talking.

  8. Jason:
    Thanks for sharing your story it was refreshing to read and see between the lines you have grown and you are growing. I quite agree with Mr. Rice that you’re an excellent writer. Perhaps that is your way to move forward and to not only earn a living but also the way to heal yourself. Writing has a way of becoming therapy. I appreciate your honesty and your spirit.


  9. Jason, I know that is going to sound stupid, but I believe that things happen to us for a reason and for a purpose. We may not understand them when we are in the middle of them, but I have learned that when we can step-back and look at them there is a lesson. I want you to do the following for yourself.

    I want you to do the mirror exercise three times a day. You are to stand in front of the mirror and do nothing but give yourself good positive comments, no negatives. You are not to break eye contact with yourself. The result over time will be to reprogram how you see yourself. No one else can do this for anybody. You have to do this yourself.

    Your self-esteem was damaged from life and this is why you placed yourself in a position to go to jail. Somewhere alone the line in life you developed a message that you do not deserve to succeed! You possess the skills and attributes to succeed at anything you want. You could go to the library and bring your skill level back-up as an industrial engineer.

    Everyone, including me, is telling you that you are a gifted writer. The problem is in your present image of yourself. Your writings in your blog and mine provides the proof that you are a gifted writer. Seeing the Lights of Mistakes is heart-warming and brilliant, but you don’t accept it. You will have to accept the fact that it is superior, because then you will have to place your name on it and accept the fact that you are good at this.

    I want you to put those superior writing skills to work for you. You are to write down 20 good and positive skills and attributes about yourself..look in the mirror and tell them to yourself. Add more good thing to the list about yourself each time of the exercise. You may feel stupid and call me a lot of names. It is O.K., because you don’t believe the things you are telling yourself. Over time you will.
    You will be able to accept compliments and take pride in yourself. You will even be able to let more people love you, but you have to learn to love yourself first! Otherwise it will not take.

    Go back and resolve your core abandonment issue. That is your earliest, and for most of us a painful, event you can remember as a young child around age 3 or 4. Accept that this event…is not your fault!


    Forgive yourself for whatever you did that landed you in jail. 


    Rent a copy of Peaceful Warrior and watch it over and over. On my third viewing I took 10 pages of notes.


    Don’t you ever give-up on yourself!

    Please read all of the articles in blog and website. When my 2 books come out I will send you a copy of each as my gift.

    God Bless Jason!

  10. It would be difficult to teach about my experience…my charge was stalking. (Which many people have taken too much from TV and don’t understand everything they should about those circumstances…)

    What I can offer is that most persons in the charge of justice disposition are not doing their jobs well at all.

    A personal example: After my release, I was ordered to move back to the county where this situation began. Unfortunately, I was not originally from that area (I moved and lived there due to my career for several years) and had no family connections. I had asked to transfer my probation to a county 120 miles away where my family had always been. Denied. (And the victim lived in the county I was asked to return too!) So, I was on GPS monitoring. $12/day payable by me. Jobless and homeless for 6 weeks. (I lived in a hotel…on my family’s credit card.) I found 2 $7/hour jobs cooking and serving food. Worked 70 hours per week – without transportation – I walked, biked and rode the bus. Had to attend therapy 10 miles from my work once a week. Probation visits 2/month, 25 miles away. (Metro city.) Very stressful and I was alone aside from work.

    I had resentment – I had worked as an industrial engineer – and now, I cooked and had many that griped at me, looked down on me too.

    After 4 months, I quit one job after a blowup. Decided to find a better one. No dice after 120+ resumes/emails/phone calls/one interview in 3 weeks. Money problems arose again. I maxed out my credit…rent was too high…and I hated myself.

    My mother had cancer. She was running a failing consignment business of 15 years. Her sister gave little support. And I was stuck.

    Went to court again to transfer to their home. Two options: transfer or prison. It took them 2 months and 7 sessions to figure it out. By then, money was going to a hotel again. (I bailed on the apartment, ruining credit.)

    I go home. Probation contact by phone only downstate. I continue to look for work. And get an opportunity in my org. field. I give them a plausible, if not totally truthful, account of my recent history. They offer a position, but it requires travel. I make every effort to contact and work out a plan with probation to keep this job. I’ll report anytime, anywhere. Wear a GPS device, within reason, just need a GOOD PAYING JOB.

    No dice. They threaten to revoke my probation if I take the position. I give up a $50,000/yr position over control, control, control. From there, I no longer do many searches. I wind up doing a paper route, and have for 3+ years.

    Now, my skills have eroded in that field. Too much time has past. And I took up writing as a vocation. (Though I stink at it, contrary to others opinion.)

    Instead of using my skills and abilities to say, “people can reform,” the judges, prosecutors, probation officers and mental health quack(s) decided never to weigh in appropriately.

    They reap what they sow. (And I’m not religious at all.) That’s the story.

  11. Thank you on behalf of everyone who will have the privilege of reading your commenting. They shows that you have had a corrective learning experience, both in and our of prison. You survived and you are growing. Please continue to talk about your experiences for two reasons.

    First, the best way to learn a subject matter is to teach it. If you have not already find a group/social service organization in the community that service youth and adult. Teach them what you have both experience and learn in hope of assisting them from having to experience what you did.

    Secondly, talking about the issues that lead up to your correctional experience heals you and enhances your self-esteem. Everyone makes mistakes. Make your time an assert and not a liability. Society is not fair to most of us. Continue to grow from your experience and remember things happen to us for a reason and for a purpose. Embrace both and identify your purpose in life. Then run with it!

    I would love to have you as a guest on my radio show and then maybe you will start your own. Society in some way abandoned you. You have chosen not to abandon it. Use your knowledge base to assist others and yourself!

    Thank you for providing this opportunity. 

  12. Unlike many, I spent 2 1/2 years in correctional facility. (A misnomer if ever there was one.) And I know 1st hand the downfalls of the entire system on how it uses, abuses and discards people. Unlike many, I had a pretty good education and can still voice my opinions. (So, why prison? Long story…)

    Anyways, after prison, life does not get better. People refuse to hire you. Ignored requests. And you are deemed worthless.

    But I think you touched on the various pitfalls African American males are forced into. (55% of the population where I was in was black. And I wasn’t accustomed to certain aspects of that segment of society. I’m white by the way.)

    Point is, we do need to rectify this situation. (I think Barack made some interesting statements on BET a while back that helps me believe he might do something for that segment of the population. But it still won’t be enough…I know.)

    Good Post. Enjoyed the reading!

  13. Michael, every reader and I agree with your comment. Thank you for caring enough to make your views known!

  14. This article was a very painful read. Although I was aware of the disproportionate number of Black men in the US penal system, I did not know the specific numbers. It is truly shameful of such a powerful and wealthy nation (regardless of the recession that plagues it).

  15. Thank you Peter! This is why we must have the hard conversations now and accept the responsible to correct what we have allowed to become wrong.

    Each nation has people that its government has failed to resolve the abandonment issues and the effects their people are coping with. This is why the issues that are identified for one are issues that all of us must resolve.

    What affects one person in one nation, affects all of the people in another nation!

  16. I read this with great sadness and despair. What makes it worse is that I see no end to the problem. You are one of the greatest and wealthiest countries on the planet and if you can’t fix this plight now what hope do future generations have. May well you say God bless America but I say God save America.

  17. Leanne, I cannot thank you enough for your comment. Just the morning I was talking with my good friend Elizabeth and asking her to assist me in developing programs to address these issues. I said to her that the task is so great I was not assure how to achieve this goal but, I just knew that I had to do my share. I see achieving that goal in the training of others to provide “corrective learning experiences!”

    Thank you again, and please keep reading and commenting.

  18. Thank you for sharing your “corrective learning experiences!” I am a firm believer that for the most part, there are no negative experiences in life, only negative reactions. When one is in the correct frame of mind we will grew and we will learn. You have done all! Now you serve as a role model to others.

    Thank you again!!! 

  19. Thank you for sharing this information.

    When I came out of the closet, I experienced abandonment on a massive scale – family, friends, employment, church, home. I didn’t choose to be gay any more than a person chooses to be left-handed or to have dark skin.

    There is a tendency to label hate as racism or sexism or homophobia or religious intolerance. But those are simply different flavors of the same poison.

    Despite growing up white in a small Georgia town in the 60s/70s, I had strong, positive black role models. I had my first grade teacher Ms. Camp. I truly loved that woman and felt loved in return. I also had Bill Cosby with his cartoon Fat Albert and the Cosby Kids.

    These and other fabulous people immunized me from the poison of xenophobia that was epidemic in my town.

    The insane justifications for hate are never important. Only love, compassion and forgiveness are important.

    I have learned to forgive the men that raped me. I have learned to forgive the preachers and friends and family members who abandoned me. I have forgiven those who beat me up on numerous occasions for being different.

    Hate and resentment is a burden I will not bear.

  20. Jovan, I looking forward to your returning and read more.
    My mission is to assist everyone to understand that…its all about abandonment!
    Thank you!!

  21. Wow. I am glad I found this site. Very informative and this post specifically, I could not agree with you any more. It is amazing how much the society has changed. I look forward to being a frequent visitor.

  22. Well said. I have been researching this topic since so much coke showed up from Iran-Contra and Reagan instituted the 3 strikes-you’re out rule. Thank you for your efforts. Keep up the good work.

  23. Debbie, I pray that God continues to give you the strength in South Africa. We are all in the same battle, but with God’s help we are not alone.
    Thank you for you!

  24. Thank you for being a young (22), strong, educated, black role model. Your parents are proud. I am proud of you. Now we must bring forward our brothers that need us.

  25. Glad to see you are willing to spread the importance of abandonment, In S A..we too have that same problem, not sure which rate of figures look worse …abandonment due to aids or crime at this stage…. God Bless!

  26. I knew the situation was bad but I didn’t realize that 1 out of 9 blacks in that age were in prison. Unbelievable. I like the fact that you are approaching your passion with love and compassion. That is the only way to solve any problem. When we talk about the war on drugs or the war on crime and fight it as such, we only get more of the same. More drugs and more crime. Since we have started these “wars” the situation has only worsened. Keep sharing your message with the masses. There has to be a change. Thankfully we have people like you who are making a difference. Many blessings!

  27. I totally agree. Our society has become a huge money machine – we’re over-capitalized! I hope we see how far we’ve gone towards destroying our basic society and its institutions so we can return to building a stronger nation.

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