“Hatred paralyzes life; love releases it.
Hatred confuses life; love harmonizes it.
Hatred darkens life; love illuminates it.”
Reverend Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

When do you need to look at abandoning your belief system? Here are my thoughts! Click here!

                    Coming Soon: The Link Between Terrorism and Unresolved Abandonment Issues!
                                                            By: J. Ray Rice, M.S.W., A.C.S.W.

        

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 When you hear or see the name...Dr. King does it remind you that he was a Reverend?

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“Like an unchecked cancer, hate corrodes the personality and eats away its vital unity. Hate destroys a man's sense of values and his objectivity. It causes him to describe the beautiful as ugly and the ugly as beautiful, and to confuse the true with the false and the false with the true.”

Reverend Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Dr. King’s quote speaks to the politics of humankind. You only have to look at the behaviors and actions of how we can tell a lie long enough, and offer enough, to be preceded as the truth. Our politicians do this to us to influence public opinion so they can lie to us. We quote our bibles and our belief systems to justify our prejudices, hateful acts, and discrimination against people or groups we do not like. To read the whole article click here and please comment.

        

"Take the first step in faith. You do not
have to see the whole staircase.
Just take the first step."
Martin Luther King, Jr.

A “corrective learning experience,” has been described in others writings by this author as events, experiences, or acts that allow us the opportunities and resources to correct or heal an abandonment experience. This includes our self-esteem, ability to bond, love, and trust; as well as our desires to destroy, harm, or kill others and ourselves.

To read how the election of Barack Obama would provide "corrective learning experiences" to individuals, groups and nations...click here!

                                                              

        

What is your most recent abandonment issue or experience? As stated in other articles on this blog abandonment experiences are normal outcomes of our day-to-day interactions, communications, behaviors, and reactions. This survey is seeking to identify your most recently abandonment experience. 

Please read the choices and select the best answer for yourself. No information is saved about your IP address, nor are any cookies added to your computer. Only your answer and the time is reported for any of our surveys.

Thank you for your participation and vote often! Please return to review the results and read the upcoming articles!

If you haven't taken the survey...What Is Your Core Abandonment Issues, please do so now!

 My Most Recent Abandonment Experience Is

• I love someone who betrayed me by cheating.
• I experienced the death of a child, parent, relative or friend.
• I lost a friendship I valued.
• I lost my home due to foreclosure.
• My partner or friend left me for another.
• I lost my employment or means to support my family or myself.
• I lost or experienced the death of a pet I love.
• I had a child taken from me or placed for adoption.
• I, a girlfriend, or my wife had a abortion.
• My government failed to provide me safety, liberty, or justice.
• I was emotional or physical abandoned.
• I had a child to runaway from home or placement.
• I was physical or sexual abused.
• I experienced rejection.
• I was recently diagnosis with an illness and I am fearful for my health.
• My best friend married and I am fearful that we will or have grown apart.
• I recently graduated from school and I miss my friends.
• I recently was discharged from the military and miss my unit or role.
• The taking of another's life in the military, police, or by accident.
• I experienced a miscarriage.

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By request the last copies of the 2nd Edition of Thank You For Loving Me! The Psychology of Loving & Healing have been released for immediate sale at $16.99 per copy. If you loan your copy out, it will be a gift to the person you gave it to, because you will not get it back! They will thank you for helping them to heal their abandonment issues. So please, include in your order whom the book is for!

Thank You for Loving Me is dedicated: 
    
                        "To those who love, and to those who want to be loved!"

James A. Cox, Editor-in-Chief of The Midwest Book Review wrote:

"Thank You for Loving Me! is about the practical psychology in a poetic format of loving and healing based on John Rice's self-help, self-improvement seminar. It is about the necessity of taking risk, pursuing dreams;
the role of friendship and the nature of love in the human experience; the impediments we all heir to; the concepts, values, and standards we all held to (by ourselves as well as by others); and the critical role of 
gratitude in peace of mind and personal tranquility. The psychology is sound, the style simple, the message elegant, the book timely and timeless."

• Chapter 1 -  I Just Discovered How Much I Love You
• What are you risking?
• I just want to be loved!
• It all starts with our parents.
• Time goes on, Life moves forward.
• Mom!
• Wherever I am.
• Chapter 2 -  The Almighty Image
• I need God in my life!
• Lord, I haven't been hearing You!
• Thank You for loving me, Lord!
• Some people think?    
• Chapter 3 -  In My Image
• I had a dream!
• The truth is...
• And...
• How easy it is to spend your life looking!
• Being your friend first.
• When I was younger...
• Sex is an action...
• And...
• Friends are those who...
• Love & friendship
• Love, what is it?
• There is no such thing...
• You're involved with another...
• Love is!
• It is extremely difficult...
• I'm sorry!
• It has been said...
• There is something...
• Love! For the longest time...
• I shared with a friend...
• Do I prefer casual sex?
• It is one of the greatest ironies of love...
• I have learned...
• Emotions and feelings...
• Can you understand?
• If you haven't experience!
• And...
• Where does love begin?
• There are two stages...
• Chapter 4 -  Do I Chase You Away?
• What do you want?
• Whenever I see someone...
• I met someone!
• If I were honest?
• I wonder?
• Would I chase you away?
• What should I do?
• Before we can talk!
• You say you've said that...
• And...
• I finally fell...
• I'm sorry!
• I'm sorry that I...
• There are times when...
• When I am silent...
• Wow!
• You know!
• At times I feel...
• If we would only be...
• I don't want to...
• Chapter 5 -  Can I Be Held?
• It was a moment...
• When I say no.
• Have you noticed?
• If we discover...
• I'm loved by...
• I'm sorry I'm not capable...
• Chapter 6 -  Thank You For Loving Me!
• Thank you for...
• I love you!
• Thank you!
• The key to peace is...
• Thank you..It hasn't been easy!
• Thank you...for teaching...
• Thank you...Because.
• Thank you...I have experienced.
• Thank you...You know.
• Thank you for loving...
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As I prepared to presenter my seminar...It's All About Abandonment, June 7th at the 2008 Conference of the National Association of Social Worker - Florida Chapter, I decided to share it with the world. It is that important to me! You will need Adobe to view this file. If you do not have Adobe Reader you can download it free by clicking on this link!

I ask that you respect my copyright to this presentation, as well as all of the articles I have posted. Please give me credit for the material and provide a link-back to this site so others can join our learning community.

My short and long-rang goals are to provide:

1. Train-the-Trainer programs for all occupations that work, service, and care for people;
2. Seminars for individuals and professionals that want to increase their interpersonal communication skills and attributes;
3. Develop an International Think-Tank to exchange ideas on possible solutions that may assist in the treatment and healing of abandonment issues, experiences, and events;
4. Continue to write reading and training materials on the many different subjects of abandonment.  

Please feel free to email me your interest in any of these goals to: 
jrayrice@itsallaboutabandonment.com


Click here to read...The Answers to Human Behaviors! Please add your comments to the discussion.

                                                               

        

                                              
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Like you my father, step-father, and uncles they all fought to keep America free! This included our right to vote for the officials running our government.

In an earlier article on this blog it was pointed out that laws and social polices causes its citizens to experience abandonment feelings and events. What about when those in our country develop a system that abandons our right to elect our government. We see it happening all of the time around the world, yet we feel safe in America that our vote counts. 

Is our vote at risk as well? Watch Hacking Democracy on the Internet and give your comments to this question. Do we need to abandon electronic voting in order to protect our vote and our right to elect our officials?

Click here to watch! Don't forgive to comment. Protect your vote!

        

May 15th is Bloggers Unite for Human Right! I have chosen HIV/AIDS. They both cause people to feel and experience abandonment. In fact it is causing children worldwide to be orphans. For information on human rights of people with HIV/AIDS worldwide, please click here.

1,000,000 Africans were used to test the oral vaccine for polio. Do not think you know the truth! 
Click to watch...AIDSOrigins! (This Blogger, by providing a link on the worldwide web, is not claiming that any individual, company, or nation in this film are responsible for anything!)

        

What are the ethical reasons to the following questions and behaviors?

• Why do we kill?
• Why do we produce guns of all types with new technology to kill people faster?
• Why do we continue to produce nuclear weapons?
• Why do we continue to produce chemical weapons?
• Why do we continue to produce biological weapons?
• Why do we lie?
• Why do we cheat on our partner?
• Why do we continue to have unprotected sex?
• Why do we have sex with people and know nothing about them?
• Why do we move-in with a person we are thinking about marrying and produce children with them without the protection of marriage?
• Why do you set yourself up to fail in relationships?
• Why do we steal?
• Why do we use the name of God to hate, kill others, or win a game?
• Why did we possibly risk 1 Million Africans in the development of the oral polio vaccine in the Congo? (Click underline text to view video)
• Why does a leader of a nation lies about the true reason he and his administration sent men and women, sons and daughters, mothers and fathers to war and then cut their benefits and not providing them the aftercare and treatment for their physical and emotional wounds?
• Why do we think it is Un-American to look at the cause and affects of our policies and actions?
• Why do we fear our own children?
• Why do we fear others?

Listen to the Underlining Abandonment Issues in the Lack of Ethics on Buzzing with John and read a new article on the same.

Also take 12-minutes to listen to Olberman: Bush Interview Unforgivable. 

 

        

Please listen to my first podcast with Zura Beth of Creative Clown. Click here...

        

                                                            
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As a prelude to my next article and radio show...Underlining Abandonment Issues in the Lack of Ethics, I ask that you watch this video. It was aired on PBS last night, April 25th on the Bill Moyers Journal. The Reverend Jeramich Wright, Pastor of Trinity United Church of Christ in Chicago, Illinois was the guest. He was the pastor of Presidential Candidate Senator Obama.

Please view the whole video and give your comments on how the media abandoning the truth is affecting us!

Click to see the Bill Moyers Journal on the Reverend Jeramich Wright.